Society Hates Things Because Teen Girls Like Them

There are a lot of things out there that are rubbish.

I’ve read, watched, and listened to some god awful stuff. I can also be absurdly picky with the media I consume, and there’s plenty of things I thought I wouldn’t like but turns out, I love. Things that, maybe I wouldn’t have considered were it not in passing.

As a previous teenage girl (and even now!), when I liked things, I really liked them. I talked about them constantly, to people in real life and online. I would read fanfics, watch fanvids, look at manips (are they even still called that?) of the media I loved.

As girls, we love to love.

But, as a society, we love to hate.

It’s a weird dichotomy as a girl myself, but it gets even weirder when girls grow up and forget about what being a teenage girl is like. As young girls, we love to completely invest in a story, a show, a band, a song, but we become adults and we join in with the chorus of society that tells young girls that the things they enjoy? They suck for liking it.

Like I said, there is a lot of bad media out there. I’ve watched/read/listened to things that are clearly geared towards men. But these things? They don’t get dragged through social media posts, newspaper think pieces, or on morning talk shows as being absolute garbage.

And the demographic who love them are never insulted either.

Sure, Twilight can be considered problematic. One Direction’s songs kinda pander to teen girls. Riverdale…doesn’t really make any sense. But funnily enough, I don’t think demeaning the people (teen girls) that like things is a great attribute to have.

Oh, your thing is shitting on the things people love? Groundbreaking.

I’ve talked about something similar in a previous post, about how we shouldn’t feel shame for enjoying the things that we enjoy. We need to learn that liking things is not a bad thing. But in this post, I just wanted address this age-old concept of hating things purely because teenage girls like them. Be it bands, films or books.

Or just, social media as a whole.

Those hilariously ironic spoken word preachy videos about how we ‘need to get back to humanity’ and to ‘put our phones down and talk to each other’…only then to have the audacity to upload it to Facebook and ask people to like, share and subscribe.

But you know what? Social media is a huge thing that has taken over the entire world. A phenomenon. It’s supposed to be good, but because we’re humans, it can be manipulated for evil. Like a lot of things that teen girls and non-teen girls alike love.

Teen girls go through so much shit in general. They’re vulnerable, have a lot of choices to make, don’t know what’s going on with their bodies and brain chemicals, and are often underappreciated and undervalued. If they find something that gives them unfathomable joy, just let them ride that wave without making them feel bad for liking it. Kay?

Oh, and stop associating bad things with teen girls, while we’re at it.



  1. Ashleigh

    November 15, 2018 at 9:43 pm

    Loved this post! I feel like it’s a conversation we’re gradually seeing more and more of, and yet it’s still not being shouted loud enough.

    1. Hollie

      November 17, 2018 at 6:40 pm

      Absolutely! I’m glad you liked it Ashleigh 🙂

  2. Ellyn

    November 16, 2018 at 2:06 pm

    YES to this whole post!

  3. kirstyreadsblog

    December 5, 2018 at 3:23 pm

    This is a great post Hollie! And a topic that really makes my blood boil. I got so much shit in school for adoring the Jonas Brothers and now everyone loves Nick. Gimme a break

  4. PrettyMuch

    April 26, 2019 at 8:28 pm

    Yesssss I’m a teenage girl. And I like boy bands. So what ?

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