Dear Little Me,
I’ve always wanted to write to my younger self, but I’ve never felt old enough to have enough things to say. Even now, writing these sentences, I’m struggling what to write next. Isn’t it weird, that at 23, I’m feeling old? I never thought I ‘d see it…not because I thought I was going to die, just that it was so far away, in a different decade, where kids born in the 00’s are teenagers and not babies still.
I wanted to compose a list to you, Little Me, about the things to come. Not good or bad, some don’t fall into that category, just things.
- The internet is going to blow your mind. The Sims 2 is still fantastic, but just wait until dad brings home your first broadband connection. You’re gonna get your own giant computer that sits in the corner of your bedroom, and you’ll never come off the internet. I can’t begin to tell you what it is, other than it is everything. You’ll make friends, connect with old friends, and learn so much that people in the real world may not tell you. It might aid in your unhealthy obsession with Harry Potter, but we’ll cross that bridge when we come to it.
- I know moving homes constantly is tiring, and saying goodbye to friends is hard. But honestly, you’ll find a place that’s perfect, where the family will set up camp for life. And, before you get there, why not live in some spectacular places while you’re at it? Cyprus, Wales, Weston-Super-Mare, West Midlands and finally, Bath. (Ok, maybe one of these places isn’t like the others. But you have fun in all of them.)
- In secondary school, please try. Becoming a teenager is the worst, you’re a mangle of emotions and everything is new and different. One of my biggest regrets is choosing subjects for GCSE that meant nothing. I didn’t choose them because I liked them, or even because I thought they were beneficial. I was told I was good at them, so I did them. Turns out, just because you’ve been told your whole life that you’re good at fine art, doesn’t mean you actually are.
- While we’re at it, foreign languages. Learn them, love them. I know you do, don’t listen to teachers who say you’re not good enough. You are, and French and Spanish are waiting for you.
- You’re not fat. And, even if you were, you’d still be beautiful. People will still fancy you, people will still love and fall in love with you.
- Don’t get too upset over love. He loves you so much and will do for so long. But things change, people’s emotions change. You were good to each other, but now it’s time to move on.
- Yes, you do like girls the same way you like boys. No, not everyone feels that way. Yes, it’s perfectly normal.
- You’re parents aren’t always right. They want what’s best, but they don’t always have the answer. Just because you’re younger, just because you’re less experienced in life, doesn’t mean you’re wrong. Opinions are opinions, don’t copy theirs just because of who they are.
- Books are powerful. They’re slowly becoming important in your life. Just wait, just wait.
- STOP TRYING TO BE HIPSTER. YOU’RE 14 ALREADY, JUST READ HARRY POTTER.
- University will be the best three years of your life. Bad things happen, of course, but it molds you in to the person you will become. Living alone, being independent, pushing yourself forward. It’s a beautiful thing.
- At 20, you’ll grieve a loved one for the first time. It’ll be hard after that, you’ll see people break down, people who you thought couldn’t. Celebrate life, maybe don’t think about death so much.
- Say YES more! I don’t mean to things you genuinely don’t want to do. But, say yes to that meetup, to new opportunities, to new places, to new food. People want you there for a reason, lasagna is popular for a reason, it’s fun because it is.
- And finally, do not make yourself small to make others feel bigger. Do not agree to make people happy, do not stay quiet so others can be louder. Support others, don’t let them stand on you to do it. What you say, how you feel, is important and valid.
Love from your friend,